It is rare for people to tell one another about their funeral wishes, and
those that do only cover the most superficial details such as whether they wish
to be buried or cremated. By using the MyFuneral™ service, you can
specify as little or as much detail about your funeral wishes as is important to
you. Also, because your funeral wishes are stored on our secure servers
here at PartingWishes.com,
it also ensures that your wishes are easily located
and accessible to your designated Keyholders®, not hidden in some
document in some drawer that no one can find, or may not even know exists.
Furthermore, when you die it will be a stressful time for your loved ones,
family and friends, who will be left to organize your legal and financial
details as well as your funeral arrangements at a time when they will be most
vulnerable and least able to cope with some difficult choices. Your actual
funeral arrangements should be a reflection of your personal wishes, and your
family and friends will find comfort in knowing that your wishes are being
carried out. Without communicating your wishes, it could lead to
disagreements between your loved ones when they discuss the painful decisions
that they are trying to make on your behalf. Services such as those
provided by a funeral home will often attempt to ease the burden by stepping in
and offering choices of several different packages, with varied pricing, and the
decisions can become even more difficult.
Funerals rank among the most expensive purchases many consumers will ever
make. A traditional funeral, including a casket and vault, costs about
$6,000 (£3,000), although "extras" like flowers, obituary notices, acknowledgment cards
or limousines can add thousands of dollars to the bottom line. Many
funerals run well over $10,000 (£5,000). Yet even if you're the kind of person who
might haggle with a dozen dealers to get the best price on a new car, you're
likely to feel uncomfortable comparing prices or negotiating over the details
and cost of a funeral, pre-need or at need. Compounding this discomfort is
the fact that some people "overspend" on a funeral or burial because they think
of it as a reflection of their feelings for the deceased.
Hence, expressing your personal wishes for your own funeral arrangements is a
thoughtful decision, showing consideration and easing the burden on your family.
Going through the MyFuneral™ wizard will make you think
about a number of issues that may never have occurred to you. You will
find the wizard interesting, informative and engaging. You will be able to
complete a plan that will be appropriate, affordable and that conforms to your
wishes. You may have different religious beliefs to those around you, or
perhaps you want a special type of service, or your own selection of music to be played,
or a special poem to be read, or a personal message to be communicated to those
in attendance; a final chance to say goodbye. Every funeral should be as
unique as every life. Remember, a funeral is sadly one of the few
occasions that all of your loved ones will be gathered together. Would you
like them to mourn respectfully, or throw a festive party in your honor?
Many people believe that their funeral wishes will be carried out if they
document them in their Last Will and Testament. However, a Will is an
inappropriate document in which to detail your funeral wishes, simply because it
will usually be located and read long after the final arrangements have
occurred. Hence, using a service such as the MyFuneral™ service
will ensure that your wishes are heard, understood and
followed when the time is right.
You only need to answer the questions you feel comfortable answering.
The MyFuneral™ wizard will step you through many questions regarding the
style and cost of your funeral. It will also help you to make many
decisions regarding your final arrangements, including:
- whether you want any of your organs (or your whole body) to be
- if you wish to be buried or cremated, or some other option
- where you would like your service to be held
- the type of casket or container in which you will be buried or
- if and where you would like an obituary placed, or any donations to
- where your remains will be buried, stored, or scattered
- the details of your ceremony
- details about any marker you want to show where your remains are
buried or interred
- any messages you would like to be read out during your service
- what will happen after the funeral
You may want to step through the questions with your family to share in this
planning. You could even take your documented wishes to a local funeral
home and pre-pay for the services that you specify, relieving your family of the
financial responsibility. Your funeral wishes are not legally binding, so
it may be prudent to share these plans with family members who will be acting on
your behalf. This document will reflect your personal preferences
regarding your funeral arrangements, and those you leave behind will usually
respect your written wishes.
The MyFuneral™ service steps you through a simple question and answer
wizard, formats your answers into a readable format, allows you to store your
information securely online and allows you to make unlimited updates. You
can then designate your own personal "Keyholders®", who with their
unique ID can unlock your funeral wishes at the appropriate time.
These services are all available with the Bronze membership package, which is
currently completely FREE for 1 year. See our
Prices page for more details.
After stepping through the MyFuneral™ question and answer wizard you
will be able to store your preferences securely online here at
This information can only be unlocked by a personal
Keyholder® designated by you, using their unique, randomly generated
ID. After you have passed away, your Keyholder® will be able to
access your funeral wishes from anywhere in the world by visiting the
All of the necessary instructions for creating and notifying your
Keyholders® of their responsibilities are provided for you as a member
If you wish, you can even send them a personalized
wallet card to store in a safe place, containing all of the information they
need to login and view your funeral wishes when the time is right.
Your Keyholders® are selected by yourself and should be trusted
friends, family members or loved ones. Even so, there are security mechanisms in
place to help prevent premature access to your wishes. In particular, your
Keyholders® will each be given a unique, randomly generated ID, which
will allow them to request access to your information. At that time, you
will be sent an email notifying you of this request, and you will have an
opportunity to refuse this request if you feel that access should not be
granted. If you do not respond to this email within a period of time
designated by yourself, then the information will be unlocked and the
Keyholder® will be able to view your funeral wishes.
Your funeral wishes are an expression of your desires surrounding your
funeral, organ donation, cremation, burial, and any related services. As
with any funeral planning, these wishes do not constitute a legally binding
document. The ultimate decisions rest with your next of kin.
Typically, your next of kin will welcome and be very grateful for the efforts
that you have made to express your funeral wishes and will honor your requests.
The wizard can be completed in about 10 minutes, after which you will have a
formatted document reflecting your desires for your funeral arrangements.
However, it is likely that many of the questions contained within the wizard
will get you thinking about issues that you haven't previously considered.
Some of the questions may make you want to investigate your options further,
such as your choice of funeral home. Or there may be some questions that
you would like to discuss further with your loved ones.
The wizard does not need to be completed in one sitting. You can answer
a couple of questions and then store these wishes securely online here at
until you have a few more minutes to answer additional
questions. If you prefer, you can spend many weeks or months making
unlimited updates until you are happy with your final results.
All of our data is securely stored in a highly encrypted format on database
servers in the USA. To protect against catastrophic data loss, daily backups are
performed on each of our servers to locations in Canada and the U.S. Hence, if
any one of our servers experienced technical difficulties, the data would not be
Furthermore, physical protection of our primary systems includes:
- Fire detection and fire suppression systems with dry pipe pre-action
- N + 1 redundant power supplies, providing dual power feeds and backup
batteries, water coolant systems and generators
- N + 1 redundant climate control, providing primary and backup chiller
units, cooling towers, and water storage
- Local network operations center (NOC) for monitoring all data center
- 24x7 monitoring and support of network connection and server
- 24x7 uniformed guard service with interior and exterior closed-circuit
- Electronic access at all data center entrances, including biometric hand
- Electronic key management systems and individually keyed cabinets
As you can see, we take the security and privacy of all of our member
information very seriously.
Most of our services are completely international.
They can be used by anyone in any country in the world.
Services such as MyFuneral™,
and MyMemorials™ do not create legal documents and
make no assumptions about your country of residence.
In the US, Canada, England and Wales, we have worked extensively to ensure that the legal
documents created by the MyWill™,
and MyLivingWill™ services are up to date
with the laws in all of the states in the United States and the provinces in
Canada, including: Alabama, Alaska, Alberta, Arizona, Arkansas, British
Columbia, California, Colorado, Connecticut, Delaware, District of Columbia,
Florida, Georgia, Hawaii, Idaho, Illinois, Indiana, Iowa, Kansas, Kentucky,
Maine, Manitoba, Maryland, Massachusetts, Michigan, Minnesota, Mississippi,
Missouri, Montana, Nebraska, Nevada, New Brunswick, Newfoundland, New Hampshire,
New Jersey, New Mexico, New York, North Carolina, North Dakota, Northwest
Territories, Nova Scotia, Nunavut, Ohio, Oklahoma, Ontario, Oregon,
Pennsylvania, Prince Edward Island, Rhode Island, Saskatchewan, South Carolina,
South Dakota, Tennessee, Texas, Utah, Vermont, Virginia, Washington, Washington
D.C., West Virginia, Wisconsin, Wyoming, and Yukon Territory. Hence, these
services can be used to generate legal documents in any state in the United
States with the exception of Louisiana, and any Canadian province with the
exception of Quebec, and in England and Wales in the United Kingdom.
If you are in Quebec, you can consider downloading a Quebec Will Kit from QuebecWillKit.ca.
Furthermore, the MyPowerOfAttorney™
service is available for all States in the United States except Louisiana, and
for all Provinces in Canada except Quebec. In the UK, power of attorney forms
are provided free of charge by the government.
Note that even in unsupported areas, there is value in stepping through the
wizards provided in these services in preparation for a consultation with an
attorney. It is strongly recommended that residents outside of the above
supported states/provinces/countries seek legal advice even after completing the
wizards. Local laws in these unsupported areas have not been considered in the
structure of the legal documents.
If you have any doubts about the legal standing of any documents in your
jurisdiction, feel free to seek legal counsel in your area to have your
There is a considerable amount of information included in the on-line help of
the MyFuneral™ wizard. This will answer most of the common questions
regarding the steps included in planning your own funeral.
For information about the other services available, or about
in general, you can browse this web site or send an email to
We will be happy to answer any questions you may have.